SS13's attitude has been much worse lately. Monosyllabic answers. Rolling eyes. Scoffing and "what are you, stupid?" tone. Not unusual for pubescent kids, but annoying and not excused.

Today, DH got an email from one of SS's teachers to tell him he's becoming a real problem: talking, acting up, arguing back. When she corrects him or moves his seat, he rolls his eyes or scoffs at her.

My  SS is 19. Son of my SO. his driver's license address has our home address, however he does not live here. he bought a 1973 camaro and refuses to get insurance for the car. I'm afraid if he causes an accident or harm, we will be liable. I have requested in many occasions for him to get insurance or change his address on his driver's license  to my SO.

Every time my partner and I address, correct, and punish poor behavior (stealing, walking onto other people's property, taking off disappearing without telling us in public, being obsessed with death/gore/violence, breaking things, touching things that don't belong to her, cleaning up after herself, helping out around the house, bumping into people, hygiene, insert anything common to troublesome SKs on this site), SD gets enraged.  She'll slap herself, stomp around, scream out.  Everything is a dramatic performance with her.  We just don't even entertain it any mor

Getting ready to go home. Passed the 4th quarter grade reports to husband. All F's for her online classes. Still no drivers permit.

Husband mentioned she and toxic troll would be 'working" on the grade situation (shes not doing the work...how else can you "work" on that?)

Im focusing on NOT talking about anything to do with Powersulk SD17. In 1 month shes 18.

I will have boundaries in place after May ends, but doubt she will live with us.

From the conversations about adult offspring continuing to live at home beyond the required obligation.... has got me thinking

Under What circumstances would I allow it?

Most likely never

but I did think to myself I would allow ailing parents to stay ... (maybe adult offspring but rather they not impose) especially if I had a guest house or house so large I never saw or heard them 

I would still charge them rent (and make them earn their keep) although I'd give the elderly on fixed income a break. 

Has anyone read the story about Minnesota state senator Nicole Mitchell.. arrested for breaking into her stepmother;'s house?

She claimed she was just trying to recover some of her dad's things.. and his ashes.. because the step mom stopped taking her calls.. so that's how she decided to resolve it.

Look.. that was your dad's wife.. Assuming he had a long loving relationship with his wife.. why are YOU entitled to the ashes.. he would have left anything he wanted you to have in the will... I wonder if she was an absentee daughter.. until she wanted things.

Tell me if I'm in the wrong here...

I get home from work yesterday afternoon. I walk in and see a pile of backpacks at the bottoms of the stairs. SD is home with 3 friends up in her rooms. Girls, but still. DH is no where to be found. He is at work. 

I called him. No answer. 

Another discovery related to Auntie's passing two years ago.

We all loved her. DH suggested that the family (which doesn't include me, remember) establish a memorial of some sort. Great idea, oh Yes, Daddy. We want everybody to always remember Auntie. Please Daddy. We'll support it and help. (All lies. Waste of breath.)

is my husband's memorial service. He died in late February, just shy of his 76th birthday, after a horrific six month fight with a cancer recurrence. His doctor was certain the surgery he recommended would buy him a few more years. But what could go wrong, did go wrong. And it accelerated everything. We had been together for 22 years, married for almost 18.

My 50 year old SD was found dead in her apartment this morning, evidently from a fentanyl overdose. Such a tragic waste of a life. My husband is distraught,  thinking he should have tried more, done something different. When you have addicts in your life you always keep that one little ember alive, hoping it will work out. I know I did with my mom. I am just glad she can finally find peace. As much drama, crises and pain she caused in our lives, she made her own even more miserable. Such a sad and heartbreaking life and death.